Love...

In order to be healthy, capable of love, we need to gain a deep sense that the world is a safe place. Part of this comes with the realisation that problems do not simply just go away. They must be worked through or else they remain forever a barrier to our growth. The same problems will confront us in the next relationship, job or situation if we don't get through them. We will never find the perfect job, the perfect friends, the perfect partner. It is all about finding love where it grows up in between the cracks and working through the problems that surround it. Until we solve the problem of ignoring problems, we can never get beyond where we are.

We also need to become willing to confront problems early, before we are forced to confront them by circumstances later. Sometimes this means putting aside something pleasant or less painful for something more painful or uncomfortable. It means choosing to suffer or be out of your comfort zone now in the hope of future gratification rather than choosing to continue present gratification in the hopes that future suffering will not be necessary.